“Just where does the time go?!” Tomorrow my son will be 26 years old. I admire him so much that if he wasn’t my son, I would want him to be my friend. But what a double blessing – looks like I get to have him as both son and friend.
He only lives about 70 miles south of me. But of course in beautiful southern California it could take over an hour or so, or over two hours to drive to his place. My record is 2 1/2 hours in grid lock. Which is faster than when I lived in Omaha, Nebraska and drove to his home in 2009.
As we were talking on the phone the other day it dawned on me that I felt a little awkward about something. It happened again – son grows up and I need to adjust accordingly to another stage of his incredible and cool life. I’ve mentioned before that he and his girlfriend of 7 years recently moved in together.
So I just came out and said it, “Of course I’d like to see you on your birthday, but I don’t know the birthday rules now. I mean, how do we do this? I stopped throwing you big birthday parties long ago.” (He laughed.)
Plus his birthday lands on a Saturday. I then said, “It’s your day to do what works for you and your girlfriend. So, you let me know.” (They both work long and hard hours.)
If you ask me, it ended up being a comfortable conversation. He said the “right” thing too – that he’d talk to his girlfriend about it.
He called me back the next day with a plan and an invitation. The cool thing for ol’ Mom here (if I do say so myself) is that he also received his birthday gift that I had mailed. Clearly, no pressure from me! My experience is that it is much easier to learn and be aware when I remain a sober mom.
For some reason I have not been sleeping well again. Plus I had a dream that I drank. Over 23 years with out a drink and I had a drunk dream. I woke up that morning extremely uncomfortable in my skin. (Whaaat? That dream was nuts!)
And with my love, respect and gratitude for having a grown man as a son now, I simply MUST share his Happy Day of Birth Son post that I wrote last year about that day he was born!